Cinema Africa Film Festival 2017

Last week, I was at the Cinema Africa Film festival in Stockholm. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to participate in the events but I’m happy that I took the time to see some of the movies during the festival.

Photo from Cinema Africa
Participants at the festival
From Cinema Africa

They showed many African films like The Queen of Katwe directed by Mira Nair and starring actors like David Oyelowo, Madina Nalwanga, Lupita Nyong’o and others. White Colour Black directed by Joseph Adesunloye. The cast includes Dudley O’Shaughnessy, Waje Ojo, Sy Alassane and others. Joseph is from Nigeria but lives in the UK.

Joseph and Dudley

But I was able to see a documentary on South Africa, The Giant is Falling by Rehad Desai at Zita Cinema on Sunday. I think the film gave a good picture of the political situation in South Africa; the ANC, EFF and DA (all political parties in SA). After seeing the film, I got more information about South Africa and the way their government runs the country. I may not want to be political in this post but according to the director of the movie, Julius Malema may not be the messiah poor South Africans are looking for. I may agree with this but I’m not sure, only the future will tell.  If you want to know more about the contemporary South African government, corruption, harassment, syphoning of public funds for private use, killing of the mine workers, the fees must fall protest by university students, and the South African youths hope for democracy, you need to see this documentary.

I watched this movie which is a South African romantic film. Thabang Moleya directed the film; Happiness is A Four Letter Word. The cast starred Khanyi Mbau, Chris Attoh, Tongayi Chirisa, Renate Stuurman and others. This movie is the icing on the cake, mehn! It has been called the South African version of Sex and the City.  The movie is around three girlfriends and their life, the lies, cheating, lust, friendship, makeup and break up and sex escapades with men. I loved how the characters in the movie were portrayed. I couldn’t move an inch till the end.

I met with Onyeka Nwelue who was one of the juries at the film festival. He is a well-known Nigerian young man who teaches at different universities for free. You should see his TEDTalks on YouTube.

Onyeka Nwelue, Dudley, Joseph
Photo from Onyeka
Me at the Cinema enjoying the films

I am sorry that I have been away from my blogging, the good thing is that I’m back.
Imma ๐Ÿ’œโค๐Ÿ’œ.

My Belief About Life (1).

I believe in love. A pure love without any selfish expectations. The love that makes heart melts and yearns for what it wants. Good loving is pleasing for the soul which leaves sweet memories. A loving lasting relationship that bridges the gap and loves wholly, transcending borders or race. A relationship that allows and gives room for equal communication, respect and commitment by both partners. I don’t believe in fake love, it destroys, manipulates, steals, humiliates, manipulates and hurts the body, mind and soul. A real relationship doesn’t have anything to do with pretence. I believe in something real from the start to the end of it. Real brings lovely sparkle in the eyes of lovers and encourages openness.

I believe that education is necessary for the development of any human being. To acquire knowledge doesn’t have to happen in the four walls of the university or campus. Education entails learning from others, from one’s surrounding and studying in any educational institutions (formal or informal). One can learn by relearning and unlearning, no knowledge is a waste. Be open to learning is the first steps because you will learn from people you least expected or where you never knew that knowledge lies.

The book I’m reading at the moment

I believe in marriage but I don’t accept that one has to die or be someone else because they want to get married and stay married. I don’t agree that domestic violence should be tolerated in marriages because if it happened once it is bound to repeat again. Marriage is a serious business for like minded and not determined by the age of the people in it. For a marriage to last, the two people involved have a role to play. They must be interested in the union and not feel intimidated to be themselves. Marry your friend because they understand you better, for love and not what the society wants. Marry who lifts you and encourages your success. If you marry a sadist, you may remain broken for as long as it entails. There is nothing wrong with MARRIAGE, the problem is that wrong/incompatible people go into for their personal reasons.

I believe in God because HE has been wonderful to me. I have been through tough waters but passed through without any hurt. I believe that God loves me and cares for me, that HE is my beginning and the end.
I believe that what people think about me shouldn’t change what I feel about myself. People’s views about me may affect what I feel about myself; the greatness within me. So many times, people may not understand me. They believe that I cannot get to any level in life. If I listen or believe them, I will be stuck in the mud forever.

I believe that hardworking pays and that quick money mean future trouble. I don’t indulge in Ponzi schemes or any get rich quick syndromes because there is never any easy way to success. Success must be earned in an honourable way.

I’m unique.

Love is a beautiful thing. If you find love, you find life but if you find the wrong one, doom spells out.

You can share your belief with me if you want. 

I love you all.

Imma. ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’œโค

Worst Break-up Story

While I was at the university, my friend introduced me to one of her male cousins who was living in Spain at that time. His name was Kene (not real name).

Our first meeting was at a bar in Awka. He came to visit his family after living abroad for seven years. His family but most especially his mother was so happy to see her son who has been away for many years. We met at a bar in Awka which was our first time meeting each other at that meeting place.

I spent time with him and his family and I enjoyed my stay with him. It was love at first sight and he looked so cute, handsome, neat and was beaming with a smile all over. That evening we talked about many things and I got to know that his brother was married to one of my relatives.

I was very relaxed around him not minding we have known each other for few hours. Dude showered me with gifts, attention and cash. I enjoyed the company because every minute was worth it. You can’t be with Kene and feel bored.

A few days later, I was supposed to write a course paper in Igbo Language. I told him about the exam paper and informed him that I needed to have a quiet time to read and prepare for it. Dude wasn’t in support of that ooo, he asked me to forget about the exam and in fact my study at the university. He started promising to change my life and make it up for me only if I listened to him. In shock, I disagreed with his idea and promises. Nothing will make me jeopardise my education, I have a huge interest in getting educated to any level that I wanted. To achieve this, I needed to complete my Bachelor degree to be able to further my education in the future which have been my dream since childhood.

Unfortunately for Kene, I wasn’t buying into his idea so I left to my apartment to study for my exam. A few days later, I wrote my paper and was happy that I wrote that paper. Leaving the exam hall, I tried to reach Kene but wasn’t successful. I called and called but he wasn’t picking my calls. I contacted his cousin so she spoke to him. That evening, she informed me that Kene travelled to Abuja and will speak to me as soon as gets to his destination. Okay, I called the next day but still couldn’t reach him but then I was informed that he has changed his numbers and won’t speak to me. He broke up with me because I decided to give my attention to my studies first.

I was very heartbroken and disappointed with his attitude. Although I cried and missed him, I am happy that I took a good decision to place my education first before anybody or anything. If I had listened to him, I won’t be where I am today.

In the spirit of Valentine, remember to put your education first and do not let anything to jeopardise your plans or future. If you allow today’s fun to destroy your tomorrow’s plans, then you have yourself to blame. I prioritise my future with God by my side everything will be good.

To Kene.

Happy Valentine Everyone.

Imma ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ.

My Childhood thoughts.

I used to think that been a wife is the only reason why I am here and that the role of a woman/girl in life is to be a wife/mother. I know now that first I am an individual and must aspire to the zenith to achieve everything/anything I want and be successful. That my life is determined by the choices I make or create in the society.

I used to think that it is okay for me to live my life for the opposite sex, just to please them, like a tool for the opposite sex. Never again, I am worth more than living a life of such. I live my life for me. Continue reading “My Childhood thoughts.”

My favorite healthy snacks

Some of my friends contacted me to know how I got my body back. If you are struggling with weight loss, I have tips for you.

I didn’t go to the gym to loose weight but I made sure to eat right. That money I was supposed to pay for that service can be used to eat right and get the same result. Yes, even a better result. But actually, I paid for a 6 months gym membership but ended up going there 4 or 5 times before I gave up. My aim is not to discourage you from using a gym, rather I am giving you my own strategy. Instead of going to the gym, I took long walks to schoolย and enjoyed climbing or running down the staircase. To stay healthy and achieve my aim, what did I do?

Continue reading “My favorite healthy snacks”