I’m in my early-twenties. I’m in a dilemma, I think I’m in love with two guys.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 4 years, we’ve had our ups and downs, we both live in the same country.
I’ve also been great friends with this other guy for about 8 years (he’s in Nigeria). We are extremely free with each other, he understands me very well, Our communication is 👌🏽👌🏽and he knows me like the back of his hand.
This guy in question has asked me out severally and I refused because I was either dating or not ready to date. The beautiful/funny thing is that each time I say no, he doesn’t get upset or anything he quietly goes back into the friend zone..lol but I guess he’s tired of been in that zone. Recently he’s been telling me of how much he loves me and really wants to have a serious relationship with me.
Truth be told is I’m really fond of him and really like him (I said fond cos I don’t know if I love him), he has a sweet personality and he’s very sensitive person. In these past few months, he’s given me a real idea of how an ideal partner should be. I don’t pray to break up with my boyfriend but if it happens I’m not going to date anyone below the standards this other guy has set.
Note: My present boyfriend may not be perfect but he’s a good person. I need a matured advice on what to do, to date him which means double dating, tell him no again and risk losing him which will hurt, or any other reasonable options.
Thanks in advance.
You have to ask yourself what is it you want again. You already have a boyfriend who you claim to live and he loves you too. Why do you want to complicate matters for yourself? Why can’t you enjoy the good relationship you have now and bid bye bye to this guy? Myabe there is something else you have not told us.
Please be with someone who loves and respects you. Don’t let double dating spoil your happiness for you.